HELP! I don't get it.

Now I'm going to warn you, I have a foul mouth. If that makes you uncomfortable, please exit this blog.

I grew up in Connecticut, y'know, that small state that no one really pays attention to? I decided to expand my horizons and come to Texas for school, in hopes to discover a new sense of self and embark on a magical journey. I love Texas, don't get me wrong. All of the huge cities are completely different from one another, the food is great and people know how to have a good time. But holy hell. Some of the mentalities that I have crossed paths with do not make sense to me at all.

Because of this, I'm going to go down the list of things I don't understand and maybe someone can explain these ideologies to me because my Northeastern ass doesn't get it. I have seen some of this stuff in Connecticut, but it all tends to be more common down here.

1. Parents hit their kids?

Here's my debate: If kids can and have been raised without being physically harmed to prove a point, then there's no motherlovin' need to hit your kids. Like. Why are you hitting a kid? Stop it. "It's my kid." Okay why are you hitting your kid? Shouldn't you like that kid? It's yours. 

If you're confused, here, take it from someone with a Ph.D.: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/good-thinking/201409/is-what-happens-when-you-hit-your-kids

Oh you can read this too:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/18/adrian-peterson-corporal-punishment-science_n_5831962.html

2. Feminist is a bad word.

I don't understand this one at all. If you don't agree in the equality of sexes, you should probably teleport your ass to the 1400s and wait until a plague gets ya. If Beyonce is cool with it, you should be cool with it.

3. We're still confused on sexual assault/harassment.

"But was she drunk?" "Is the guy attractive?" "Maybe she's just embarrassed?" "Guys can't be assaulted, he's being a bitch." Sober consent needs to take place. I thought it was that simple?

4. Being gay is still a "sin."

Y'know what's a real sin? Being a dick.

There are gonna be a few people who read this and disagree with all of what I have to say. They'll exclaim, "This liberal! She's the type of person who wants CHANGE. I can't handle CHANGE. I can barely handle all them GAYS walkin around!" or "She's not a parent, how would she know not to hit a kid?!" or "She's going to HELL!" Don't worry, I already bought my ticket there. I'm taking Continental. Actually, I just think that people want excuses to be assholes to one another but at the end of the day want to still feel like a good person. All of what I've discussed has to deal with the lack of equality between people. If you're not for equality, you're not for me. And if you're not for me, then why are you still reading this?

#Yikes

We gather here today to recognize that my sister and I were cyber bullied by a male cheerleader, in college. I don't know if that's a sad sentence or a hilarious one, but let me explain.

It all started with a tank top.

Apparently the TCU cheerleading team thought this was a cute idea! But alas, quite a few people begged to differ. Although the color palette is flawless, the saying on the tank top was #offensive. This tank top promotes the idea that there is some sort of war between people who are thin and people who are not. The issue with this tank top being made by cheerleaders is that one of the most well-known groups of people on campus is saying that not being skinny is wrong. The fact is, there is nothing wrong with looking any sort of way as long as you are happy with who you are. And you don't need a stamp of approval on your body, because it is YOUR body.

But anyways, let us move on!

In response to this photo, yours truly said, "is this a joke? Or did you actually waste money on sh*t like this to be an embarrassment towards our school?" I guess I forgot to sugar coat it.

But, this female cheerleader's trusty sidekick decided to step in. He had nothing but nice words to say which included, "Do you have friends and or a life??" This reminded me of my middle school days, where my answer would have most definitely been "no LOL :D." 

It was at this point that I figured even if I did have friends, he was not one of them. So I decided to use the only "friend-making mechanism" I knew, which was to respond to him with a funny picture! He responded with some more things like sending a picture of him with his friend and saying, "sorry you couldn't go to a good school that would get you a life #richkids." I guess I hadn't made it clear that I, in fact, do attend the same university.

Next, I would like to call in my sister, Ali, to play the role of "the casualty" for the evening. In a sweet attempt to stand up for her twin, Ali responded to him saying, "the shirts are idiotic, along with your commentary." When interviewed, Ali said, "I was JUST trying to end the dispute."

"Sorry b*tch you should loose some weight #teamskinny"

Loose.

Not lose.

Ali cries, "HOW DO I LOOSE THE WEIGHT?!"

In all seriousness though, this college student basically called another college student... fat. Which is absurd and upsetting. We live in a world that constantly tears men and women apart for their looks. We live in a world where this is becoming even easier to do when you can hide behind technology. It is true that this guy deleted what he had said the following day. It is also true and unfortunate that I know how to take a screenshot. Even though we are laughing about this now, we would be lying if we said we weren't initially a little hurt. Ali and I were bullied throughout grade school, but luckily we always had each other. Typically when someone is bullied, they do not have a twin to back them up. Ali and I had a hard time explaining this situation to people because it is hard to talk about someone trying to hurt you. It is even harder to admit that you're vulnerable enough to be hurt by something like this. Thankfully, we are not at our breaking point, but that doesn't mean other people are not. We all didn't become Horned Frogs so people could represent our school like this. If you take anything from what I've written, I hope it is that online harassment is still an issue and it is still hurtful. If you find yourself in the same position as Ali or myself, speak up, and remember that only you can define your worth.

IN THE BEGINNING THERE WAS A TIME:

When people bitched about others having a different life than them. Lately, we have all seen the "articles" of "How to Live in Your 20s," "All the Things You Should do When You're Young," "Don't Get Married Yet, Here's Why," and thanks to Buzzfeed, "Only People from (INSERT STATE HERE) Understand This," but, where the deuces did all of this come from? Could it be, the need to belong and to be confident in our own lives?! Could it be that if someone does something different from the right things that we did in our lives, then all of a sudden, we didn't do the right things?! Could it be that we are afraid of people finding their own happiness?!

Who knows. We don't know the reasonings of these people. In fact, what all of these people forget to mention is that they aren't credible at all. I'm fully aware that I am not credible and that I am just a college student wishing to gain credibility. But to post all of these tips on life when you're not Gandhi is a waste of everyone's time. Because there are no experts on how to live a life. The closest things we have are doctors. And even they don't know everything. You think every doctor has their boating license? NO. Spongebob didn't even get his boating license and the SOB lived under the sea. (Irrelevant, but whatever).

The person you want giving advice is the person who says, "Y'know what, these are the facts, anything other than that is a gamble because it's an opinion." And all of these types of articles I listed are based on personal experience. So, there aren't any facts involved. So if you're getting married at 22 or 65, COOL. I hope it works out. If you're raising a kid even though you aren't married, COOL. I hope they are raised with love. If you don't want to travel and you want to live in the suburbs and work for a makeup company, COOL. I hope your company gives you discounts. As long as you aren't hurting anyone and you're achieving YOUR dreams, no matter if they are considered big or small by others, good for you. And if other people try to shit all over you for doing that, ignore them. They aren't worth your time. Live YOUR life. Not the life others want you to live.

Godspeed.
- Kelly